Personal Bests: Techniques For Living An Effective Life

28 Dec

1. Personal Effectiveness Tips

A. Be sure to manage your assumptions when dealing with others. Starting out with the assumption that someone is lazy, or stupid, or selfish does very little to establish a solid communication stance. Now, some people may in fact turn out to be lazy, stupid, or selfish, but let them prove that to you prior to your providing a guilty verdict.

B. Reduce the amount of choices you are faced with in your daily life. Research shows that consumers, when faced with myriad choices regarding investments or chinaware or designer curtains, become paralyzed into making the most conservative choice available. Make it easier on yourself by choosing from among two to three options, and then moving on. Remember, you can usually fix any choices that go wrong anyway down the line.

C. None among us are mindreaders, so stop assuming that people know how you feel or what you want them to do. In this age of information overload, it is crucial to get back to the basics of communication. In other words, formulate a clear message, communicate it in a way that makes sense to the other person, and make certain that they got the message as you intended it.


2. Reading Recommendations for December:

A. Everything Ravaged, Everything Burned, by Wells Tower (recommended to me by Mr David Sedaris, so I pass it on to you)
B. Choice Theory, by William Glasser, M.D.

C. On Combat, by Lt Col Dave Grossman

D. Extreme Fear: The Science of Your Mind in Danger, by Jeff Wise (recommended to me by Sam Sheridan, author of The Fighter’s Mind, a past recommending reading selection)

E. Think Smart: A Neuroscientist’s Prescription for Improving Your Brain’s Performance, by Richard Restak, M.D.


3.Reality Check: Holiday Musings

In the spirit of the holiday season upon us, I’d like to share some random thoughts that come to me between sips of eggnog:

-Thank you to all my current and former clients. It is a privilege to have played a small part in helping you to pursue happiness and productivity.
-Don’t let yourself get lost in the holidays. By that I mean that we tend to lose ourselves in the hubbub and chaos of holiday shopping and partying. The holidays are a time to reflect and to give thanks, no matter our religious beliefs.

-As my favorite mentor always says, “Suffer no fools.” You don’t have to put up with stupidity, moronic behavior, or excessively large egos that suck the air out of the conference room.

-Simplify! As technology continues to advance, it’s easy to find ourselves lost in the shuffle. Think smarter, and better, not necessarily faster and newer. I still schedule my life using a pen and paper, and have no plans to change that anytime soon.

-Reconnect with those you care about and love. Life is all about relationships anyways. Take care of those that are most important to you.

-Reflect on the year gone by and the lessons learned. December tends to be a month where the world slows down a bit, which provides ample opportunity to sit and cogitate.

-Embrace hope. No matter how bad you feel your life can be, we all have much to be thankful for this holiday season. Tomorrow is a new day, filled with new opportunities, and we can reinvent ourselves in a moment if need be.



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